Do not awaken love until the time is right.
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.
Songs of Songs 8:4 NLT
Opening up your heart to anyone consequently puts you in a vulnerable position. Any moment another human being is involved, there lies a window of hurt. It's just how it is because we are imperfect. With this in mind, today we will focus on making the choice to protect ourselves from unnecessary hurt. Yes, you read that right. We are responsible for our hearts. We choose who we let in.
Our verse today warns us to not awaken our desires before their time. In other words, do not get ahead of yourself. Because of how hard it is to do this, it will require a lot of discipline. Can you look back into your life and see a heartbreak that you could've avoided because you didn't want to fight the urge to give in to the moment?
The older I get, the clearer I see things. As much as a majority of us would like to believe otherwise, your heart is your responsibility. I sometimes hear the saying, "You stole my heart" and I realize how someone lied to all of us. While it may be just an expression, we sometimes get to believing it. Friends, no matter how hard it is to restrain yourself from giving in to the rush of meeting someone that sparks your interest, it is ultimately for you to decide whether to pursue those interests or not. How we feel when we meet someone that interests us is not a mistake. God created every mechanism in us for a purpose. If we didn't have those interests, God's plan for marriage would not have worked. I hope we understand that God is not telling us that we should not have interests. Rather, He is telling us to have them at the right time and until then to control what we awaken or stir up in our hearts. He knows the dangers of things being out of order and is saving us from any consequences that may result thereof. Our call to action is to submit out hearts to God and hide in Him. Both physical and spiritual discipline will be essential. We need to cultivate the ability to refrain from jumping into every place our interests lead us to and develop a habit of consulting God for His wisdom in all things. He freely gives to those who ask (See James 1:5). Finally, seek wise counsel and be accountable to them. The result of all your work will be something good and pleasing to both God and man.